So today we’re throwing a birthday party for our twins, Matt & Nate. They actually turned seven in April, but they wanted to have a combined party with their buddy Owen. He turned seven even before the twins, but we’re just getting around to the party now because of scheduling. Why not?
It’s a spy party, not that it’s pertinent, but maybe you were interested.
Anyway, we sent out invitations for the party, even hand delivered most of them to classmates and friends. On the invitation were printed four little letters, R.S.V.P. Well, those four letters mean something. They originated from the French words répondez s‘il vous plaît, which mean “Please respond“.
See, even Google agrees with me. Even Emily Post, the source for all etiquette had this to say about the term R.S.V.P.
“Anyone receiving an invitation with an R.S.V.P on it is obliged to reply….”, and some recent editions describe breaching this standard as “inexcusably rude”.
So, why is it that whenever we have a party and ask for a reply, ask for the invitee to respond please, about 50% of the people we invite are inexcusably rude. Seriously! We include an email address and a phone number on the invitation for the invited person to respond, yet it’s like we sent the thing into a great invitation void whence a response will not come.
Our children thought enough of your child to invite them to their party. If they can come, excellent, if not, bummer, but either way WE NEED TO KNOW!
There is the chance that most people don’t know what R.S.V.P. means. I recall telling my wife that she should put the words “Respond if your are/aren’t coming”, or something to that effect. The result–no different.
We’re going to get ready to party now, but I don’t know how many cup cakes we need, so I have to buy for everyone we invited. I don’t know if they’re coming. There’s going to be more than a few left over, guaranteed.